Saturday, July 02, 2011

Rolling Out the Carpet

Instead of rolling out a red carpet to welcome our family home, our carpet was of the car variety.  I transformed a corner of our yang tai into a play area for the boys.  A yang tai is a typical feature of Chinese homes and is basically an open area with lots of windows intended for hanging clothes to dry.  Our yang tai is at one end of our living room, so it makes a space for them.  I found a basket drawer set at a market in the southern part of our city and had a seamstress replace the girly floral liners with a fun jungle fabric I found at the cloth market near our house.  So now the boys have a fun place to play and look out the window.

They boys, however, aren't the only ones who have been enjoying the car rug.

The three other American families have been such a blessing in welcoming us home.  They have been eager to meet the boys and spend time with us but have respected our space as well.  When we returned home, they had our house clean, our fridge stocked, and a few surprises as well.

Our first week at home has had its high points and low points.  We've had lots of sleepless nights, lots of messes, and lots of tears (sometimes not just from the boys!).  But we've also had lots of laughs, lots of hugs, and lots of thankfulness.  Our main goals for the first few weeks is to try to establish a routine, including teaching good eating & sleeping habits.  It might seem a little ambitious but we've made a lot of progress I think.  Sami has started his first solids of banana and pumpkin puree (homemade stuff I froze before we went to pick them up), and Micah pretty much plows through anything we put in front of him, including vegetables (evidence that he is most certainly fit to be my son!).  He has a serious crush on his fork and refuses to begin a meal without it, even if he doesn't use it at all.  

While Sami is pretty much a dream at going down to sleep, he hasn't been sleeping through the night most of the time, requiring a bottle around 3 AM.  Micah is not a fan of naps or night time, but we're slowly discovering a sleep routine that seems to be working.  Micah has made it through the night once, but he typically wakes up a few times. We think maybe it's because of the residual itchiness from his scabies, so hopefully his sleeping will get better as his skin heals.

So this first week has been full of a lot of learning.  This is probably one of the most difficult things I've ever done in my life.  More difficult than marathons.  More difficult than living internationally.  More difficult than learning Chinese.  But my husband is amazing, my God is sufficient, and our commitment to these boys is steadfast.  


David said...

You'll get it ... 'cause you're MOTIVATED! Love you guys!

Susan/Mama said...

ONG!!!! Loved this post. Thank you for the pictures. They were wonderful. I love it, love you, love them. Just can't say enough about it, so I'll stop now.

Susan/Mama said...

Well, that was supposed to be OMG, but I'm typing on your Dad's tiny computer and can't see either, evidently. lol

Jennifer said...

I had to chuckle when you said this is the hardest thing you've ever done. YES!!! I never believe new parents who do nothing but gush and exclaim how wonderful life is. Any mother knows the parent is telling a loving fib! ;-)

Just for a point of reference, most parents say that things really start clicking (on both the child's side and the parents) at about 2.5-3 months home. Not to say that the first 3 months are all bad, but that the 'hard' factor continues to go down bit by bit each week, and by 3 months, there are way more 'easy' and very few 'hard.' That 3 month marker seems pretty consistent for whatever reason. I didn't know that the first time we adopted, and there were those moments of tears when I wondered if this was what life was always going to be like from now on (yes, I was a little dramatic). With our second adoption, I knew during those rough times to just wait out my three months.

Your boys are beautiful! Thank you for letting us all follow along.

Jennifer (fellow IAG mom)

Rachel said...

Great pictures, loved the commentary, and oh my your boys are SO cute! I was wondering today how you were doing so thanks for sharing. Yes, it's difficult and your life will never be the same, but in a GOOD way. This is very good. God has been very good to you and He knows just what you need when you need it. I am praying for you and so thankful for your first week of Home and Routine. Give the boys hugs and kisses for us!

Love you friend,

Chris & Sarah Peek said...

Glad to see that Micah likes to sit in the baskets! He and J will get along swimmingly when you come to town. Thanks for your honesty about this week. We're looking forward to hearing how the Lord shapes you and the little men as you grow together as family.

Brandon and April said...

I just scrolled through your first page of pics again with Eden. When she saw the one of kevin sleeping on the rug she said, "but beans is awake and sami is awake...why isn't Kevin awake?!" :)

Jill said...

Congratulations on your sons coming home! I stumbled upon your blog and was so excited to read about a successful adoption and such beautiful children! Our family is in the process of fostering a little boy with hopes to adopt him...if that is God's plan. Congratulations again!